What does this mean? Well, it’s simple. Every human being on this god forsaken planet has the potential to be the worst version of themselves; assholes.
Within our homes, our work spaces, on our streets, in our parks/beaches, or even in our cars, we are assholes. It doesn’t even matter to who; relatives, loved ones, friends, or even strangers. The asshole within us does not discriminate. Admit it, that made the asshole within you a little proud. Go ahead and smirk, it’ll soon fade away with guilt. Guilt brought on by social politics. Social politics brought on by shame and a need to immediately justify our actions to anyone or everyone or yes, even to no one around us.
We’re all assholes, so why be ashamed? Social politics were put in place to assure that humans behave the way they’re supposed to and condemned when they don’t. We all act on impulse and our impulses are brought on by our emotions which we’re told are completely normal. Well, unless you’re LGBTQ right? I kid but to be honest even people who are deemed “normal” are shamed into complete repression of their “normal” feelings. Hell, men grow up to be the most emotionally damaged because of the inherent fact that “big boys don’t cry” bullshit. Then we as women march the streets to condemn them for being damaged, though ill admit some had it coming. But, remember my topic sentence; we’re all assholes. And we all justify our actions. The point is, these standards make people feel like they aren’t normal when they are. It doesn’t matter who you are or who you love or what body you’re in, we all are capable of being assholes. We all snap and lose our shit, we all pull back and think to ourselves, “shit…I wish I could take that back..” We all know what shame and guilt feels like. It’s stupid to feel guilty over something that happens to literally every single person on this planet, including the one receiving your current shit.
Guilt, is said to be a great thing. It forces people to better themselves and modify their behavior. Which I encourage, but there is a limit. How can you possibly better yourself if you end up hating yourself? This is where guilt becomes dangerous because there is such a thing as TOO MUCH guilt. The kind of guilt that has you staring at the bottom of a bottle of antidepressants you stole from your mother’s medicine cabinet.
We’re all assholes. So to those who shame others to an extent where they claim to be above it, to be honest, you are the ones who should be contemplating suicide not those you judge. Simply because of how hypocritical you are. Your own noses are so far up your asses you’re practically choking on it. YOU should be ashamed.
I’m not saying we have to be accepting of everyone’s asshole-y actions, but we have to at least accept that we are all the same in that aspect of human behavior. I mean, come on, everyone I know is an asshole, in their own special/beautiful way #mybestfriendisanasshole (this should be trending all day, everyday).
Now, another thing to keep in mind is that everyone’s perception of the asshole within is different, just like every other aspect of human behavior is perceived differently. So no, obviously we aren’t going to like it. Obviously, we’re going to fight with each other relentlessly for the rest of time. We’re humans, argumentatively not the brightest of the primates. I mean, I’d prefer to be a bonobo. Look them up, they’re awesome.
Are some people better at being assholes than others? Well, it depends on what you mean by “better.” Some people are BIGGER assholes than others, while some are “better” at the persona. Does this mean that assholes are also liars? Look, I hate to break it to you but every person on this planet is a liar. And yes, white lies count too. Everyone lies. Deal with it. You don’t have to like it but that’s the way it is.
I will tell you this though, assholes tend to be more honest than people who go out of their way to be “nice” to you. One day the nicest person in your life will turn out to be the one person who’s been talking shit about you behind your back this whole time. Everything an asshole says to your face, you better believe they’ll say it behind your back too. Which in a twisted way, is comforting.
To conclude, stop judging someone for acting like an asshole at times when your inner self knows that you have and will continue to do the same exact shit too. Get over it, and more importantly get over yourself.